I have progressed further than I could ever have dreamt I would.
I ended completely changing my lifestyle, and my body had no choice but to follow.
It was a process – in several ways it still is – , and a very challenging one. Therefore it’s not all smooth sailing, but as long as we’re willing to do the work, it’s perfectly achievable.
It’s all about what you decide to focus on.
Recently one of my gym instructors shared this on her facebook page:
From my point of view this is a perfect metaphor!
People don’t see all that we go through when journeying from overweight to healthy. Those who have not underwent this transformation tend to disregard what they don’t see and believe it’s an easy process. It truly isn’t.
Also, as I’ve talked about on my post about Setbacks, disappointment and failure are part of the journey. We should accept them and learn from them, instead of giving-up because of them.
So…. I’ve had several friends and family members asking me for my “weight loss secret”, and my answer usually disappoints them.
Firstly I feel the need to correct them: I’m not trying to lose weight, I’m focusing on being healthy and strong and the weight loss is just a side effect. Secondly, there aren’t any secrets:
Unless you call discipline, hard work and willingness to change a secret… then, yeah, I have “secrets”.
I once read two sentences which, in the long run, have come to make total sense to me:
The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new.
One reason people resist change is because they focus on that they have to give up, instead of what they have to gain.
At this point I believe it doesn’t really matter how much you’ve let your self go, or how many times you’ve given up on changing your body. It’s never too late to make a change – or many small changes – and focus your energy on the new things you have to gain, like health, strength and overall well being.
Every expert was once a beginner. Too many people forget that too easily.
When I first joined the gym I was a fish – more like a puffer fish – out of water. But I knew that if I gave up that would never change. During those truly uncomfortable and frustrating first months I kept this in mind:
And if my experience is worth anything, I can assure you the voice in your head saying “Pppffff… I’ll nevah be able to do that” is a liar. Remember: I joined the gym at 113kg, unable to do a single push-up to save my life, so in the beginning I heard that voice A LOT. I consciously chose to ignore that voice, I heard it alright… just didn’t give it credit. Just because I can’t do it today, that doesn’t mean I won’t be able to do it someday, I just need more practice.
And then, every time you’re finally able to do something that just last week you couldn’t, the feeling is something like this: